Self love is a great way to practice self-care and can improve your overall mental health. It’s an important concept and has been popular across social media, especially in the past few years. Here are some ways to help practice self-love and be good to yourself.
Some Ways to Practice Self Love
Stop comparing yourself to others:
From a young age, we are often taught to be competitive, and naturally, this means comparing ourselves to our peers. In some cases, being competitive can help motivate us and increase productivity. However, it’s important to remember that every person is unique and comes from a different background with their own experiences. When we compare ourselves to others, we think of ourselves as being “less than” and lose confidence in ourselves.
Focus on how you think about yourself, not what others think of you:
Societal norms often place a lot of expectations on us. We can’t make everyone around us happy; that’s impossible! Worrying about what other people might think of us will only bring a negative impact on our lives. It’s important to put yourself first and as hard as it may be, learn to value your own personal thoughts about yourself more than what other people think.
Forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes:
We are reminded again and again that as humans, we are bound to make mistakes. Mistakes help us learn new things and grow from our experiences. However, sometimes it can be difficult to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we make. In the need to be “perfect”, we can also be harsh on ourselves. As humans, we are always learning new things and growing, as the unique individuals that we are. It’s better to focus on learning and growing, rather than dwelling on the past.
Practice self compassion and acceptance:
As humans, we are judgemental in nature. In today’s society, we can find ourselves easily comparing our bodies to the “picture perfect” bodies we see on social media. It’s so important to remember that what we see isn’t always “real”; our value doesn’t lie in how we look.
Let go of toxic relationships:
Relationships come and go. Sometimes we feel like we have to hold onto relationships, even if they no longer serve a positive purpose. People come into our lives, but people also leave our lives. It’s better to let go of toxic relationships, than to hold onto something that doesn’t make us happy.
Process our fears:
We can learn to understand our fears, try to reach the source/where they come from, and manage them accordingly. Understanding what gives us anxiety can allow us to anticipate the anxiety and learn how to better manage it.
Take the opportunities that are given to us:
Most of us have goals and ambitions. Sometimes, opportunities are given to us and other times we have to seek them out. Regardless, taking opportunities, even if it’s scary, can allow us to learn, grow and accomplish things we never thought we could. Seize the moment!
Put yourself before others:
Self care is not selfish! We can’t take care of anyone else around us if we are not taking care of ourselves. When we love someone, we learn to compromise and make sacrifices just so the other person remains happy. This could be a great method of holding on to relationships. However, when this habit starts affecting our emotional and mental well-being, it’s okay to say “no” and focus on yourself.
Trust in our decisions:
Sometimes we doubt ourselves when making important decisions. We worry about the outcome and the possibility of things not going as we planned. Trust your decision and as they say, go with your gut! You know yourself better than anyone else; take responsibility for the decisions you make.
Feel our emotions fully:
Whether it is happiness, joy, fear, pain, or sadness, we must learn to feel these emotions to their fullest. Our emotions help us to understand ourselves better and make it easier for us to handle them. Our emotions are valid and have a meaning and a reason. Understanding where these emotions come from can ultimately make us realize that we are not just our feelings, but much more than that.
The best way to practice this is by speaking our minds in public. What’s the worst that could happen? Someone may disagree with our opinion, or prove us wrong.
Either way, we learn new things and add to our experiences. We must make it a habit to join conversations with people and contribute our thoughts. This increases self-confidence, and the habit will soon become a part of our personality.